I just went on a retreat for 4 days in the mountains. It was beautiful. Not just the beauty of nature, because we are fortunate to experience that right here in Rochester, but the beauty of slowing down, of connecting deeply with others… I long to go back there, but alas, life awaits here.
This transition seems timely as many people are getting settled into their new routines with kids going back to school or college. Or even if you don’t have kids, there seems to be this energetic shift that sweeps the nation as many of those around us are changing their schedules, habits, and responsibilities.
For many their summer feels like my retreat. It was a beautiful blessing and the transition to reality can be a bit jarring. Some say it’s just the kids that feel this way, but adults’ share they also feel bombarded with adding their kids schedule to the calendar with activities, field trips, homework, and other things added to the plate. When one person’s life close to you has shifted, you’ll experience the shift as well.
I invite you to think about ways to stay grounded as life become more hectic. Grounding is a technique that helps keep someone in the present. They help reorient a person to the here-and-now and in reality. Grounding skills can be helpful in managing overwhelming feelings or intense anxiety. They help someone to regain their mental focus from an often intensely emotional state.
Slow down and think about what really matters. I challenge you to look at what can be taken off your plate. What can be outsourced or minimized. How can you simplify? I don’t mean to ignore, put off, procrastinate or just not care. I mean look at what is serving you and what is not serving you. Evaluate how you can free yourself of expectations or responsibilities, or ways of connecting that are not serving you or the ones you love. What IS working? How can you hone in on that? Take time to reflect and pick and choose. Sometimes I need to give myself permission to pick and choose and know that I don’t need to do it all.
As you may be getting swept up in the season of activities and routine, I invite you to continue to reconnect with yourself, maybe as you connected with yourself during slower moments in life. Find your direction, listen to the voice within and get grounded. This is how you achieve inner wisdom and that is your gift back to your family, the world and yourself.
If you’re reading this and feel like you need to make time for yourself I want you to schedule a retreat into your calendar. Yes, with all the other activities. You don’t have to pick what you’re going to do. In fact, I often don’t like to plan exactly what I will do with that time, but rather schedule time, then determine what it is I need when the time comes, as those needs often change. Hopefully it helps you to manage through the transitions, and instead of living life day to day in a way that doesn’t leave you fulfilled, staying mindful of what really matters.
Stacey Steinmiller, LCSW is a "change warrior" who is passionate about helping her clients understand the roots of their hurt and how to meet their feelings with compassion and love. Stacey works with clients who are struggling in their relationships, who can't seem to make lasting changes in their diets and health, and who may be feeling stuck and want to move forward in their career. If you are ready to roll up your sleeves and dig deep, call stacey today to begin your journey on finding your true, authentic self. CALL FOR A FREE CONSULTATION! 585-967-6996 • 595 Blossom Road | Suite #315, Rochester, NY 14610. Visit ascounseling.com